How our childhood affected us

Dorothy Law Nolte Write:

If a child lives with criticism, He learn to condemn,

if a  child lives with hostility, He learns to fight,

If a child lives with ridicule, He learns to be shy,

If a child lives in shame, He learns to feel guilty,

If a child lives in tolerance, He learns to be patient,

If a child lives in encouragement, He learns to be confident,

If a child lives in praise He learns to appreciate,

If a child lives in fairness, He learns justice,

If a child lives in security, He learns to have faith,

If a child lives in approval, He learns to like himself,

If a child lives acceptance and friendship, He learns to find love in the world.

Today kearn to train tour child in the way he should go and we victims should try

to fill the open spaces in our lives

Concept of love

A CONCEPT ABOUT LOVE

Love is generally defined as a strong affection for something or somebody, especially people very close to you. Love is a very strong that can never be broken even if the otherside of life tries to breaks it still remains in our memory, not even a RIVER OF WATER CAN QUENCH THE BURNING FLAME OF LOVE.

Marilyn Monroe Quoted“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” This Quote is really correct because love doesn't is not a selfish affection rather it's a selfless affection that why the word FAMILY best explains LOVE:

Your FAULTS ARE MINOR but I LOVE YOU -FAMILY.

Martin Luther King Jr. quoted that “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” When different color of light interfere it becomes more beautiful; Darkness cannot interfere because it has only one meaning that EVIL:When love is in a community they are more become more beautiful because love is a light with different color.

André Gide quoted that

“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” To love doesn't mean to be fake always be your self and never let anyone exchange that beautiful light with darkness; that refined gold with stones and sand."

Pablo Neruda quoted and explained love as a bond that bring two people together as one 

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
REMEMBER,Love is when someones happiness becomes your piority

Sarah Dessen quoted “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”

MORE QUOTE ON LOVE..........
Neil Gaiman “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”
William Shakespeare “Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
Marilyn Monroe “This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soulmate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.”  

Lao Tzu “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”  

Robert A. Heinlein “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”  

Suzanne Collins “You love me. Real or not real?" I tell him, "Real.” 

Bob Marley “You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart.  So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”  

Bob Marley“Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.”  

Nicholas Sparks “Love is like the wind, you can't see it but you can feel it.”  

Marilyn Monroe “If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything.”  

Elizabeth Gilbert “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.  

Elizabeth Gilbert A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”  

Jodi Picoult “You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not.”  

Robert Fulghum “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.” 

Anaïs Nin “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.”  

Marilyn Monroe “The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.” 

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

THE BATTLE AND THE RACE

Life is a journey which consist of races and battles that is only won completely the day a person dies. The journey requires grace, stability, consistency, reliability,diligence, peace, love, patience, strength, kindness, discipline, etc. to keep up with the journey. 
In this race the fast and unreliable will fail; the slow and consistent will be a runner up but the fast and reliable will supersede all because he don't cut corners, prepares for every new race and battles, and has the capacity to keep up with the race and win his battle diligently. But still he can't complete the race because it is endless, so he have to train the slow and consistent, encourage the fast and unreliable to be diligent and build future runners{Young Ones} because they are the future runner setting to be on that leader board. 

This is journey is also full of surprises; Monsters with friendly faces and angels full of scars; People with different mindsets; T-junction. Generally it's full of adventures.

which ever category of athlete you fall into affects you a little, always have this mindset "i want to learn" because that fast and reliable person you see didn't get fast and reliable in a day, it took a lot of pain and sacrifices and as a leader always be willing to train weak athlete.

Team work is essential. You can't just be a lone wolf running the race and fighting the battle of life, you need to team up with good people {Two good head are better than one}

Remember, life is not a bed of roses, people will hurt you to the bone never seek revenge. always be open to help the young ones grow in the right track. Slow down, take a break, don't only work but have fun and REMAIN POSITIVE

Anxiety

Many cases in life make us have many bad feelings and this is caused by anxiety. Anxiety is a strong feeling that something bad or awful is going to happen. Anxiety is an experience of unrest, apprension or agitated worry. Anxiety is the fear in absence of real danger; a fear of something not clearly understood. Anxiety, fear and guilt are three identical and dedicated emotional worker that are always ready to destroy you courage, faith, ambition, goal, etc. if not taken care of. They overestimate the negative or threatening aspect of a situation while drawing your attention away from the POSITIVE or REASSURING aspect of life. The victim is left feeling concerned, restless, irritable and fidgety.
False belief, change in society {shifting values, economic instabilities, etc}, unmet needs, past experience, you temperament, etc may cause you to be anxious “BUT ALWAYS KNOW THAT ANXIETY IS AN ENDLESS IN WHICH THE ONLY WAY IN IS THE ONLY WAY OUT-bolajie” i.e. no gain from being anxious it just a waste of time will consequences just know that everything is in control don’t relent, work hard and NEVER GIVE UP.
Anxiety can also b e prevented in many way which have worked for me and I want to share with you:

• Listening to motivating music. Example {Sia-Unstoppable;Sia-The Greatest, Travis Grene- Intentional, etc} there are many of them out there.
• Get adequate rest, exercise, recreation
• Talk to close friend about problem {stay away from criticism}
• Imagine the worst thing that could possibly happen
• Live one day at a time: probably 98% of what we are anxious about never happen.
• Don’t put things off
• Set time limit on your worries.

Remember, anxiety is like energy always created but can’t be destroyed but can be converted. Convert your anxiety to your motivation. “Little anxiety coupled with great hard work and diligence equal to progress but more anxiety less hard work and diligence equal to problems. Think Right!!!

A New Begininning

A New Year symbolizes a New Beginning, So turn a New Book

“This is a new year. A new beginning. And things will change.” 
― Taylor Swift

“All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else.” 
― Mae West, Wit & Wisdom of Mae West

“And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been” 
― Rainer Maria Rilke

“No, this is not the beginning of a new chapter in my life; this is the beginning of a new book! That first book is already closed, ended, and tossed into the seas; this new book is newly opened, has just begun! Look, it is the first page! And it is a beautiful one!”
― C. JoyBell C.

“The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become - because He made us. He invented us. He invented all the different people that you and I were intended to be. . .It is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own.”
― C.S. Lewis

“For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning."
(Little Gidding)”
― T.S. Eliot

“One of the best times for figuring out who you are & what you really want out of life? Right after a break-up.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“I guess it's going to have to hurt, I guess I'm going to have to cry, And let go of some things I've loved to get to the other side
I guess it's going to break me down, Like fallin when you try to fly,
Sad but sometimes moving on with the rest of your life starts with goodbye”
― Carrie Underwood

“I used to dream about escaping my ordinary life, but my life was never ordinary. I had simply failed to notice how extraordinary it was. Likewise, I never imagined that home might be something I would miss.”
― Ransom Riggs, Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children

“The chief beauty about time
is that you cannot waste it in advance.
The next year, the next day, the next hour are lying ready for you,
as perfect, as unspoiled,
as if you had never wasted or misapplied
a single moment in all your life.
You can turn over a new leaf every hour
if you choose.”
― Arnold Bennett

To keep up with more quotes for the new beginning

"A new day is a day with new resolution, plan and positivity. Not a day with malice, anguish and sorrow because they are things of the past-Ilori Bolaji Emmanuel

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Raising after failing

Rising after failing is a great, essential and available step for everyone to take.

Rising after failing require hard work, pray hard, confidence, diligence, patience, humility, temperance to aid  team work (because whether we like it or not we must work with people). Your failure does not define you because behind every success there is a failure.

Everything we wish to be in life starts with an ambition, start growing then try to fall (failure tries to come in) we have to hold it up till is able to stand on its own, but if we let it fall that when we become a failure.

We might fail but we are not a failure because life likes to push tests against us, it’s our choice whether to keep up with the test or fall for the test.

When you experience failure it’s always discouraging but, try your possible best not to fall again but if you do try to keep it up and always make the right decision (it’s important).

Remember, always surround yourself with people that encourage you in all positive things you do, never give up and you are free to be the greatest only if you don’t give up.

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DILIGENCE

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Diligence means to be determined and consistent when doing thing. The early stage of life (which is the teenage and youthful part of life) is the most important part of everyone’s life, the part of our life that require more diligence and hard work, to be diligentyou don't need a guide just do the right thing. To be slothful at this part of life is dangerous to life because it increase the rate of poor and lazy people in our environment which is one of the main source of crime in our society.

A diligent person is; always loving, thankful patience, attentive, careful and thoughtful when making decision, never Give Up.

The plan of a diligent person always lead to abundance everyone who is hasty comes only poverty.

A lazy hand bring only poverty but the hand of the diligent bring satisfaction.

The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul the soul of the diligent is richly supplied

Remember, the diligent will always win the race of life and will rule but the slothful will be forced to work